| Location | Basildon,essex |
| Age | 41 years |
| Cause of Death | Organ Failure |
| Date of Birth | 13/02/1968 |
| Date of Death | 07/06/2009 |
| Visitors | 1,619 since 18/06/2009 |
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me and my dad xxxxx
Dave Cartey
Born - 13th February 1968
Fell Asleep - 7th June 2009
aged 41 years.
[Daddy to Ashley,Me,Aaron,Georgia]
[Son to Dave + Stella]
[Husband to Liz]
My dad was the best dad and i wouldnt have changed him for the entire world.
A heart of gold just like nan, and would give anything to anyone to make sure they were ok, making
sure everyone got home alright before he did. the most caring man ever everyone agreed.
His most infectious smile would light up and room and to know he wont walk through the door again is
heartbreaking. i am so grateful for all hes done for me, as when my mum moved out he brought us 4
kids up alone for 4 years, doing anything to make sure us kids were happy. we have so much bad news
i dont think it will ever change just when you think things cant get any worse it just does.
dad was always there for us and has been there throughout our my whole life, the one who didnt give
up on us, the one who could make us smile when we really didnt want to, his little wink he'd do and
his face lightening up seeing us walk through his side room in hospital.
my dads been ill since the 1st time he was admitted in hospital in 2005 which he was in there for 4
months, every single day my nanny and grandad took us up there from start of visiting till the end,
it was like our 2nd home, we probably spent more time there than our own. then dad came out and he
was disabled, so me and my sister and brothers all cared for him, i pushed him round in his
wheelchair because he was so weak and it wasnt fair letting him stay in so id push him down town,
down market shopping etc so he could get fresh air, wrap him up and make sure he was all warm do as
much as i could for him, because he done everything for us.
he carried on going back in hospital over the last few years untill this year he was the worst he's
ever been. he was in hospital for about 3 weeks in the high dependancy unit and he was his self he
improved and they discharged him, the next day liz called an ambulance as he was in so much pain, he
got put back on Edith Cavell (which i thank so much for all the help they gave dad over the years) i
didnt see no change in dad and thought he was getting better, a few days later my grandad got a call
saying come down he had taken a turn for the worst so we all went down there and we found out dad
was having fits, they rushed him straight down to intensive care and this time is one of the most
scared ive ever felt. the doctor came and sat us down and told us he wouldnt make it out this time,
but i thought they said that he wouldnt before? but he bounced back and got better. so i thought
positive and thought no he will fight it like hes done lots of times before. proved them wrong again
he come out of I.T.U and moved back to edith cavell, some days were good some were bad, but i
honestly thought he could get better and still remained positive even when we got pulled in to the
room again and told this would be it. The doctor had decided stop his medication and just gave him
painkillers, which made me feel like they was giving up all hope.
but they were doing it so dad wasnt in any pain even i thought 'is this it?'
going up the hospital every single day after school, sleeping there for nights, up on the weekend,
too see him get better made me think positive, maybe he could get better fight it again.
id go up brush his teeth, sit him up and give him his drink or a bit of ice cream, rub his aqueuous
cream on his stomach and arms because they were dry, stroke his head, trying to make him more
comfortable as he meant to much to me. i felt so helpless when he was in pain, i would have give
anything to take it away from him he'd been through so much.
When he looked at me and was like 'Gem am i gonna die' all i could say was 'Dad we're going to try
make you better' but deep down part of me thought 'oh no what if he actually does'
i think to myself maybe he knew, because before he went in hospital he made sure he had my birthday
present which was a week after he passed away he had me specially made a gold 'gemma' ring and he
picked the band etc so it means so much to me just like my links london bracelet i got for christmas
from him, i also have his 'DAD' ring which i was looking after for him whilst he was in hospital and
he lost weight so his fingers went skinnier and he lost his wedding rings. father day is on sunday
and its going to be horrible without you, although i wrote you a long letter, made you a card and
brought you a big no1 bear that you have with, i wish i could have gave it you on the correct day
you should be here with us all.
i always thought that dad would get better and that we couldnt get any more bad luck, and it hadnt
even been long since nan passed away but it turnt out i was wrong.
dad was so funny, and could make such silly jokes i would laugh for ages, he used to wind me up, as
he's never been a fan of football but because i support Man U, when he was little he supported
spurs, so he began to support tottenham again, he would buy little tottenham teddybears to go on his
bed and liz supports Man U too so he'd be like dont move my teddy girls we have to have something
decent in the room. He also had his cheeky wink, we would go down the little club down the road and
have a J20 and cheese and crackers on a sunday together out spending time with dad.
if i needed someone to talk too it would always be dad,
he was special too us all, noone could replace him and he'll be missed forever he was loved by so
many hundreds turned up for his funeral.
his garden will be looked after like nans, me and my sister georgia read out a poem at his funeral
and i hope your proud dad.
love you lots + lots + lots il never ever forget you
Gemma
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I know I am still with you
in your prayers, your thoughts, your heart
And though you cannot see me,
I will always be a part
of life's sweet celebrations
in those times when you reflect
on how, though things are different,
through our love, we still connect.
We'll see each other someday
when our spirits all are free,
until then, I am with you
because you remember me.
~Sue Tague~
i love you x
dad i miss you so much, its nearly 5 months and its gone so slow.
it feels so much longer :(
i wish i could see you again and tell you it everything would be ok.
i regret not staying overnight in hospital saturday night,
if i had one more day with you i would let you know how much you meant to me as you meant the world.
i love you sooooooooooooo much
i brought you 3 bunches of flowers yesterday for you its getting there, i got some nice plaque today too.
i just want to ring your number and for you to answer the phone but i cant.
christmas this year...going to be horrible no christmas dinner will be the same as yours, the best cook ever!
there will be no laughter or jokes.
another normal day, another day without you.
as each day goes on i know its another day closer to you in health at school ive got one more essay and ive got 4 A* GCSE's already.
trying my best so you would be proud of me, its so hard/
when i get more money in my account il buy you some more gifts.
i misss you so much daddy,
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23rd 0ctober 2009
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Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Sending lots of Love to you AngelƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
A candle filled with lots of extra love is sent to you in your home above,i will be away until Tuesday but will be thinking of you as i carry you in my heart Always x x x
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♥ 4TH OCTOBER 2009 ♥
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FOREVER LOVED, FOREVER MISSED. X X X
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missing you like mad.
Dad i miss you soso so much :(
i cant believe its 2 years today since nan went, i remember you coming up the school tears all over the place and telling us.
i just feel so empty, i thought nan not being here was bad enough then you joined her too, nothing will ever go right for us and even when it does something bad happens after.
if i could give anythign to have you both back i would nothing can take away the upset and pain that is left when i think back of the happy times we had it makes me so upset knowing you wont be back with me, wont be able to say hello or goodbye when i sit back and hear people slag off their dads i think your lucky you have one, it makes me so angry! i would give the world and more to have you back but i cant cos thats it.
all i can do now if bring flowers and pretty things up to your garden but that still dont make me feel any better as each time i go i know its another day without you
its been 3 months it feels like a lifetime it honestly does i dont know how much more i can go without yous its hard im trying to do good at school.
i got a C in citizenship and one mark off an A in maths and i was just thinking i hope you are watching over us all and your proud,x
we all still go young carers, and me and aaron are doing the duke of endinburgh award soon so something to kepe my mind off things and not worrying about stuff.
we will be up to see you soon as we are going to take some flowers up for you and coming to see nanny on her 2nd angelversary.
give nan a big big big kiss for me and stay close to her
love you forever + always daddy
untill we meet again
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For you Angel David xx
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Candles for week begining 7septemberWhich speck within the void
carries your presence
the entity that will be known as you
holding your very essence
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Were you born before the wind
and conceived before time
Searching the universe for answers
to questions I’ve yet to find
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Are you a star that’s gone nova
then disappears high in the night
Or an ember that glows brightest
just before vanishing out of sight
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Are you an illusion, mirage or fallacy
or a dream that someone had
Is it all done with smoke and mirrors
will the answers make me sad
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Could you be another streaking meteor
as across the sky you soar
Or that bright twinkle in a star
that burned out a thousand years before
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Are you an old soul
from some ancient forgotten place
Who keeps returning again and again
through the mist of time and space
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So each time the universe tilts
and the planets are all aligned
Will you be that unknown anomaly
passing through one more time. xxx
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Tributes For This Week
Going on holiday for two weeks I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for all you do for Callum & I it is very much appreciated
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FOR MONDAY 31st August
Our thoughts are ever with you
Though you have passed away.
And those who loved you dearly
Are thinking of you today.
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FOR TUESDAY
Everyday in some small way
Memories of you come our way.
Though absent, you are always near
Still missed, loved and always dear.
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FOR WEDNESDAY
No farewell words were spoken,
No time to say goodbye,
You were gone before we knew it,
And only God can tell us why.
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FOR THURSDAY
We can't have old days back
When we were all together.
But secret tears and loving thoughts
Will be with us forever.
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FOR FRIDAY
Love Lives On
Those we love
Are never really lost to us –
We feel them
In so many special ways-
Through friends
They always cared about
And dreams they left behind,
In beauty that they added to our days...
In words of wisdom we still carry with us
And memories that never will be gone...
Those we love are never really lost to us -
For everywhere their special love lives on.
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FOR SATURDAY
If Roses Grow in Heaven
If roses grow in Heaven Lord
Please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my loved ones arms
and tell them they're from me.
Tell them I love and miss them,
And when they turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon their cheeks
And hold them for a while.
Because remembering them is easy,
I do it everyday,
But there is an ache within my heart
That will never go away.
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FOR SUNDAY
Still With Us
Do not stand by my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am a diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awake in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star shine at night.
Do not stand by my grave and cry.
I am not there...I DID NOT DIE.
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Thoughts Today, Memories Forever love senga.
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A BUTTERFLY CAME FLOATING BY,
I THOUGHT I KNEW ITS FACE.
IT LANDED ON MY SHOULDER,
AND SPREAD ITS WINGS OF LACE.
I LOOKED AND SAW IT SMILING,
AS IT WINKED AND FLEW AWAY.
I'M SURE I HEARD IT WHISPER,
WE'LL MEET AGAIN ONE DAY.
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