| Location | Basildon,essex |
| Age | 41 years |
| Cause of Death | Organ Failure |
| Date of Birth | 13/02/1968 |
| Date of Death | 07/06/2009 |
| Visitors | 5,007 since 18/06/2009 |
| Creator |
me and my dad xxxxx
Dave Cartey
Born - 13th February 1968
Fell Asleep - 7th June 2009
aged 41 years.
[Daddy to Ashley,Me,Aaron,Georgia]
[Son to Dave + Stella]
[Husband to Liz]
My dad was the best dad and i wouldnt have changed him for the entire world.
A heart of gold just like nan, and would give anything to anyone to make sure they were ok, making sure everyone got home alright before he did. the most caring man ever everyone agreed.
His most infectious smile would light up and room and to know he wont walk through the door again is heartbreaking. i am so grateful for all hes done for me, as when my mum moved out he brought us 4 kids up alone for 4 years, doing anything to make sure us kids were happy. we have so much bad news i dont think it will ever change just when you think things cant get any worse it just does.
dad was always there for us and has been there throughout our my whole life, the one who didnt give up on us, the one who could make us smile when we really didnt want to, his little wink he'd do and his face lightening up seeing us walk through his side room in hospital.
my dads been ill since the 1st time he was admitted in hospital in 2005 which he was in there for 4 months, every single day my nanny and grandad took us up there from start of visiting till the end, it was like our 2nd home, we probably spent more time there than our own. then dad came out and he was disabled, so me and my sister and brothers all cared for him, i pushed him round in his wheelchair because he was so weak and it wasnt fair letting him stay in so id push him down town, down market shopping etc so he could get fresh air, wrap him up and make sure he was all warm do as much as i could for him, because he done everything for us.
he carried on going back in hospital over the last few years untill this year he was the worst he's ever been. he was in hospital for about 3 weeks in the high dependancy unit and he was his self he improved and they discharged him, the next day liz called an ambulance as he was in so much pain, he got put back on Edith Cavell (which i thank so much for all the help they gave dad over the years) i didnt see no change in dad and thought he was getting better, a few days later my grandad got a call saying come down he had taken a turn for the worst so we all went down there and we found out dad was having fits, they rushed him straight down to intensive care and this time is one of the most scared ive ever felt. the doctor came and sat us down and told us he wouldnt make it out this time, but i thought they said that he wouldnt before? but he bounced back and got better. so i thought positive and thought no he will fight it like hes done lots of times before. proved them wrong again he come out of I.T.U and moved back to edith cavell, some days were good some were bad, but i honestly thought he could get better and still remained positive even when we got pulled in to the room again and told this would be it. The doctor had decided stop his medication and just gave him painkillers, which made me feel like they was giving up all hope.
but they were doing it so dad wasnt in any pain even i thought 'is this it?'
going up the hospital every single day after school, sleeping there for nights, up on the weekend, too see him get better made me think positive, maybe he could get better fight it again.
id go up brush his teeth, sit him up and give him his drink or a bit of ice cream, rub his aqueuous cream on his stomach and arms because they were dry, stroke his head, trying to make him more comfortable as he meant to much to me. i felt so helpless when he was in pain, i would have give anything to take it away from him he'd been through so much.
When he looked at me and was like 'Gem am i gonna die' all i could say was 'Dad we're going to try make you better' but deep down part of me thought 'oh no what if he actually does'
i think to myself maybe he knew, because before he went in hospital he made sure he had my birthday present which was a week after he passed away he had me specially made a gold 'gemma' ring and he picked the band etc so it means so much to me just like my links london bracelet i got for christmas from him, i also have his 'DAD' ring which i was looking after for him whilst he was in hospital and he lost weight so his fingers went skinnier and he lost his wedding rings. father day is on sunday and its going to be horrible without you, although i wrote you a long letter, made you a card and brought you a big no1 bear that you have with, i wish i could have gave it you on the correct day you should be here with us all.
i always thought that dad would get better and that we couldnt get any more bad luck, and it hadnt even been long since nan passed away but it turnt out i was wrong.
dad was so funny, and could make such silly jokes i would laugh for ages, he used to wind me up, as he's never been a fan of football but because i support Man U, when he was little he supported spurs, so he began to support tottenham again, he would buy little tottenham teddybears to go on his bed and liz supports Man U too so he'd be like dont move my teddy girls we have to have something decent in the room. He also had his cheeky wink, we would go down the little club down the road and have a J20 and cheese and crackers on a sunday together out spending time with dad.
if i needed someone to talk too it would always be dad,
he was special too us all, noone could replace him and he'll be missed forever he was loved by so many hundreds turned up for his funeral.
his garden will be looked after like nans, me and my sister georgia read out a poem at his funeral and i hope your proud dad.
love you lots + lots + lots il never ever forget you
Gemma
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~~~~~TO A PRECIOUS ANGEL~~~~~
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✫………Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ A
✫…………..Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ N
✫……………….Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ G
✫………….………..Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ E
✫.……………….………..Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ L
✫………………….…………Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~D
✫……………………….………Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ A
✫………………………….………Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~ Y
.....٠•●♥•εїз•♥●•٠.....٠•●♥•εїз•♥●•٠
٠ Now A Twinkling Star Shining Bright ~ Forever At Peace In Eternal Light ٠
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ANGELDAY BLESSINGS ~
⋱♰⋰ Angel Day ⋱♰⋰
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⋱♰⋰ Your Angel Day in Heaven ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Many tears will fall for you ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ You touched so many loving hearts ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ There’s so many missing you ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ As you now live in paradise ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Its Heaven up above ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Stay close to all your loved ones ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ For it’s you they miss and love ⋱♰⋰
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copyright ~ Vicky Deaville ♥
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If I Knew
If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
And pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time
That I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
And call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
So I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
To stop and say "I love you,"
Instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
So I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
To make up for an oversight,
And we always get a second chance
To make everything just right.
There will always be another day
To say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance
To say our "Anything I can do?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
And today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
And I hope we never forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
Young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
You get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
Why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
You'll surely regret the day,
That you didn't take that extra time
For a smile, a hug, or a kiss
And you were too busy to grant someone,
What turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
And whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
And that you'll always hold them dear
Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
You'll have no regrets about today.
♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥AXC♥
...........Thoughts Today, Memories Forever
.....….Angela Christopher’s Very Proud Mum
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i miss you.. :(
christmas day today.. just another normal day for me
i try my best to enjoy myself but as soon as i think of what christmas used to be like i cant be happy, nothing will be the same:( 18 months ago, and it feels like youve been gone so much longer.
i wanted to come up and see you today and it makes me sad to know i couldnt:( as soon as i can drive i will be visiting a lot lot more i hope you like the decorations me, ash and aaron done for you the other day, decorating your garden all christmassy and wrapping your lights around so it was all sparkly and festivy.
it hurts so much when i think of you not being here with us all, i know you wouldnt want me to sit here and be upset but its too hard..
new year soon, which i cant bear the thought of.
feeling down atm for no reason whatsoever, just wanting to cry at anything slight that happens and all i wish for is you back :'(
one day apart means we are one day closer to meeting again, i love you and miss you forever and always
until we meet again
rest in peace daddy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Christmas blessing
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Thank you for everything you do
for my angel dad
love always lorraine xxxx
CHRISTMAS THOUGHTS SENT TO HEAVEN TO OUR BEAUTIFUL ANGELS
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THINKING OF YOU & ALL YOUR LOVED ONES
AT CHRISTMAS.
LOVE VIV & HER ANGELS XXXXXXXX
CHRISTMAS THOUGHTS SENT TO HEAVEN TO OUR BEAUTIFUL ANGELS
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THINKING OF YOU & ALL YOUR LOVED ONES
AT CHRISTMAS.
LOVE VIV & HER ANGELS XXXXXXXX
With Love As Always xxx
Love to you & your family
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Miss you dave.
Each and every day.
I come to see you and we have our chats and always will.
Sleep tight my friend.
Love Andrew & Nicola.
xx
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